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Why I didn’t report, and dating app dangers


By Johnny Trlica

Commentary: Is our country so polarized that we cannot even agree that rape is a bad thing? One of the most disgusting things we have seen in recent weeks is a Trump-supporting mother, standing with her teenage daughters defending Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh, saying, “Groping a woman? I mean what is that at 18? I mean how many guys, you know, think that’s no big deal?â€

Let that sink in a minute. A mother is telling her teenage daughters that getting groped is essentially a rite of passage. The message to boys is essentially to do what you want with girls; it’s expected of you and you will not be held accountable.

Is the overturning of Roe v. Wade worth selling your soul to the devil? If the ends justify the means there is a price to pay. Apparently that price is decency.

#Why I didn’t report

America was riveted by the testimony or Dr. Christine Blasey Ford as she recounted her story of being sexually assaulted by Supreme Court nominee Brett Cavanaugh while the two were in high school. While a majority of those who viewed her heart-wrenching testimonial found her to be credible, many wondered why she didn’t tell the police when it happened.

Most experts agree there are many reasons why victims remain silent, including, feeling ashamed, feeling responsible, fear and just wanting to forget about it. More and more we are hearing stories of sexual assault victims coming forth 10, 20 even 30 years after the incident.

For decades we have been witnessing adult men describe being victimized by Catholic priests as children. They, along with the women who spoke up about Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein and now Brett Cavanaugh deserve to be heard and believed.

HRH reader Randy Young shared his story of being sexually victimized when he was a young man. He graciously allowed us to share it with MONTROSE STAR readers here. In a September 22 Facebook post he wrote:

“When I was young there was a reason I didn’t start working in the hospitality business until much later in my life, not realizing my potential to be one of the best servers in Houston. My lover at the time was friends with the manager at a popular restaurant in Houston.

“One day he offered to give me a position as a server and asked me to come in for an interview. My lover and friends encouraged me to take the job. They were excited for me. The excitement faded quickly as I came home later without getting the job.

“When I walked into the office to interview for the position and was asked to sit down in front of the desk, the manager told me to start filling out the application and that he would be right back. Minutes later I hear the door behind me be locked from within and the lights went out and that’s when the horror began.

“He attacked me and attempted to rape me and I fought back hard. He said to stop fighting that it would only take him a minute but I resisted. After an intense struggle I was able to get him off of me and make it to get out of the door. He told me as I was leaving that he never intended to give me the job that, I could never be qualified to hold such a position.

“I was ashamed and would believe for a long time that what he said was true. Shamed, I went home with no job and when asked by my partner and friends why I didn’t take the position I lied and told them the job was too big for me, that I didn’t think I had the experience to work in fine dining.

“Shortly after my lover talked to the manager and he told him that I didn’t take the job he offered because I didn’t want to work and only went to the interview to please my partner. I took a slap to my face and was a disappointment to my friends and never told anyone what really happened. #whyididntreportâ€

Randy is currently a top server at one of Montrose’s most popular restaurants.

Do you have a similar story to tell? Send it to: [email protected].

All Jack’d up

Hooking up with someone found on a dating app can be a dangerous proposition. Houston Police say at least six men have been robbed over the past few weeks while trying to hook up with a man met on Jack’d, reports ABC13.com.

In five of the six cases the men were asked to meet a man in the 8600 block of St. Lo Road and the other incident occurred in the 8600 block of Glenside. In all six cases, the victims were robbed immediately upon arrival, with a gun pointed to their heads.

The suspect is described as a black male from 5’7†to 6’1†and weighing about 180 pounds. He is in his twenties or possibly older and has hazel eyes. HPD urges caution meeting people through hook-up apps.

Johnny Trlica is the manager of the Houston Rainbow Herald Facebook page, your source for the latest LGBTQ news and information. Contact him at [email protected].

 

 

 

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